那些父與子的時(shí)光

與父親的相處或許并不需多言，雖然我們之間難免會(huì)發(fā)生一些摩擦與爭(zhēng)執(zhí)，不過(guò)沒(méi)關(guān)系，一首我們都愛(ài)的歌就能讓彼此立馬忘記曾經(jīng)的不愉快，和好如初。

On a Friday night， around 4：30， we rushed into the car to get to our grandparents house before we had to go to bed because the ride took two and a half hours.

"Brendan， hurry up， we are going to be late！" My dad said， waiting impatiently for me to get into the car. "I&apos；m going as fast as I can." I replied getting my bags ready. "Well it isn&apos；t fast enough." Barked1） my dad as he closed the door on me and left me there.

I could have said a couple of things to my dad right there， but I felt it wouldn&apos；t be my smartest decision because of the trouble I could get in.

Walking to the car， I could easily hear the Beatles music buzzing and making the whole car shake. It was as easy as listening to crickets2） at night when nothing else makes a sound. When I got into the car， my dad was singing （terribly， but nobody ever said anything） the song Can&apos；t Buy Me Love3）， one of his favorites and one of my least favorites. Every time I heard the song I wanted to chuck4） a baseball at the radio.

"Dad， do you think you could lower the music down？" I asked， hoping he could just turn it off. But， he continued to sing. Can&apos；t buy me love， love， no no no， no！ "Dad！"

He never stopped singing. He sang because he knew I felt mad already， and he knew I hated the Beatles， so he wanted to have some fun with me， which I obviously didn&apos；t like. The rest of that car ride had a lot of anger， mostly from me. I was furious at my dad with his singing in the car. Although it was about a stupid thing， our argument made me unbelievably angry with him. I never wanted to see him again for the rest of my life.

On some days， my dad made me rake5） leaves instead of going to a friend&apos；s house. On others， he took my brother and me to something like a football game to have a fun time. Our relationship has either been as high as the top of a mountain or as low as the center of the earth. One thing that kept our relationship digging through the ground of the earth： the Beatles. My dad listened to the Beatles all the time， including car rides， when we had parties and just on a normal summer day by our pool. Wherever I went I could hear the Beatles torturing me with their music. As this happened， it made me not like the Beatles even more after6） they weren&apos；t my favorite band.

After the incident in the car， whenever I heard the Beatles， it reminded me of that horrific day when we had our argument. So， I truly started to hate the Beatles.

Although， over the years as I continued to listen to the Beatles more and more （since they were around me all the time） their music changed from the music I couldn&apos；t stand. I realized how they weren&apos；t as terrible as I thought they were. It changed from walking out of the room when they were on， to staying in the room just listening to them.

Another Friday night， my dad and mom went out to dinner and my dad had just informed me of who the baby-sitter was that night.

"Dad， why do I have to baby-sit the girls？" I asked with anger. I knew there wasn&apos；t a big chance of him getting another baby-sitter， but I felt too angry. "Brendan， it is much easier for us to have you just watch them，" my dad replied. He looked like he really didn&apos；t want to start an argument. "They are so loud and I will never be able to study！" If I tried to study， I would learn about what I needed to learn and what the girls were talking about. "Then tell them to be quiet！" My dad boomed7）， his voice echoed through the entire house. "They don&apos；t listen to me！" I yelled back. "Then make them listen， you are baby-sitting and that is FINAL！" He finished. I thought his face was going to explode； it was so red.

He left the house without saying another word. I felt so irritated with him. He didn&apos；t listen to me or help me with my situation at all. Today， I know we could have handled the situation better， and I am happy to know that we can avoid arguing that much now.

The next morning I awoke to loud music coming from the basement. Knowing it was Dad listening to the Beatles—Who else would be listening to the Beatles at eight in the morning？—I got up and headed towards the basement. Once I saw Dad on the Stairmaster8） listening to Help！9）， I began singing the song. It startled10） him as he quickly turned his head to see who had joined him in the basement， but once he saw me and saw me singing， he joined in. We sang， badly， but still we sang together. We didn&apos；t care if we woke everyone else up； all we cared about was the fact that we knew we both felt sorry and we both forgave each other. The feeling of us staying great friends is one of the best feelings ever. When you know that after a big argument， you can still maintain a friendship， it is definitely an amazing thing.

Looking back on that day， I realized how some little things in a relationship can keep them strong and help them continue after a terrible event. My dad and I have had some nasty arguments and situations， but we always tend to keep our friendship because of the Beatles. Their music reminds us of all of the good things we have done together and how unbelievable our relationship is.

To this day， we know we can have disagreements， but we also know that we can still be awesome friends. And， as Ringo Starr11） has said many times， "I get by with a little help from my friends12）！"

一個(gè)周五的晚上，為了在我們必須上床睡覺(jué)之前趕到爺爺奶奶家，大約4：30左右我們就急匆匆地上了車(chē)，因?yàn)檐?chē)程還需要兩個(gè)半小時(shí)。

“布倫丹，快點(diǎn)，咱們要遲到了！”不耐煩地等著我上車(chē)的爸爸說(shuō)。“我盡快就來(lái)?！蔽乙贿吺帐爸约旱拇蟀“?，一邊回答道?！鞍パ剑€不夠快?！卑职趾鹆艘宦?，沖著我把車(chē)門(mén)關(guān)上了，把我一個(gè)人扔在了那里。

我當(dāng)時(shí)本來(lái)可以回敬爸爸幾句的，但我覺(jué)得這樣做不是我能做出的最明智的決定，因?yàn)槲铱赡軙?huì)惹上麻煩。

我朝車(chē)子走了過(guò)去，毫不費(fèi)力就能聽(tīng)到披頭士的音樂(lè)嗡嗡震天響著，震得整個(gè)車(chē)身都在動(dòng)，就如同在萬(wàn)籟俱寂的夜晚聽(tīng)見(jiàn)蟋蟀叫那樣毫不費(fèi)力。當(dāng)我坐上車(chē)時(shí)，爸爸正在唱《買(mǎi)不來(lái)愛(ài)情》（他唱得很難聽(tīng)，但從未有人說(shuō)過(guò)什么），那是他最喜歡也是我最不喜歡的歌曲之一。每當(dāng)我聽(tīng)到這首歌，我都想朝收音機(jī)砸一個(gè)棒球過(guò)去。

“爸爸，你能不能把音樂(lè)關(guān)小一點(diǎn)？”我問(wèn)他，希望他能干脆把它關(guān)掉?？伤岳^續(xù)唱著。買(mǎi)不來(lái)愛(ài)情，愛(ài)情，是啊是啊是啊，是啊！“爸爸！”

他一直唱個(gè)不停。他唱是因?yàn)橹牢乙呀?jīng)感到非常憤怒了，也知道我討厭披頭士，所以想逗我玩一下，而我顯然不喜歡這樣。接下來(lái)的一路上都充滿(mǎn)了憤怒，大多都是我的憤怒。我對(duì)爸爸在車(chē)?yán)锍韪械绞謵阑?。雖然是為了這么一樁無(wú)聊的事情，可我們的爭(zhēng)吵令我對(duì)他極為惱火，生氣的程度讓人難以置信——我希望這輩子再也不要見(jiàn)到他。

有時(shí)，爸爸要求我用耙子把落葉攏在一起，而不許我去朋友家玩。有時(shí)，他會(huì)帶我和弟弟去看場(chǎng)足球賽什么的，來(lái)度過(guò)一段歡樂(lè)的時(shí)光。我們的關(guān)系要么就升至山峰，要么就跌至地心。導(dǎo)致我們的關(guān)系不斷“掘穿地表”的一個(gè)原因就是披頭士。爸爸總是在聽(tīng)披頭士——開(kāi)車(chē)時(shí)聽(tīng)，我們聚會(huì)時(shí)聽(tīng)，就連在某個(gè)普通的夏日坐在我們家泳池邊上的時(shí)候也在聽(tīng)。無(wú)論我走到哪兒，我都能聽(tīng)到披頭士在用他們的音樂(lè)折磨我。披頭士本來(lái)就不是我最喜歡的樂(lè)隊(duì)，爸爸這樣一來(lái)就讓我更不喜歡披頭士了。

繼車(chē)上的那次爭(zhēng)吵之后，每當(dāng)我聽(tīng)到披頭士的歌，我都會(huì)想起我們發(fā)生爭(zhēng)吵的那恐怖的一天。于是，我開(kāi)始真的討厭起披頭士來(lái)了。

可是，年復(fù)一年，隨著我繼續(xù)聽(tīng)披頭士的歌，而且還越來(lái)越多（因?yàn)樗鼈儫o(wú)時(shí)無(wú)刻不包圍著我），它們變得不再是我無(wú)法忍受的那種歌曲了。我意識(shí)到它們并不像我過(guò)去所認(rèn)為得那樣糟。情況由我一聽(tīng)到披頭士的歌就離開(kāi)房間轉(zhuǎn)變?yōu)槲揖湍敲绰?tīng)著他們的歌待在房間里。

又是一個(gè)周五的晚上，爸爸媽媽要出去吃飯，而爸爸那時(shí)才告訴我當(dāng)晚照看孩子的人是誰(shuí)。

“爸爸，為什么非得由我來(lái)照看妹妹們？”我生氣地問(wèn)道。我知道他不太可能再去找另一個(gè)人來(lái)看孩子，可我就是覺(jué)得太生氣了?！安紓惖?，就讓你來(lái)照看她們對(duì)我們來(lái)說(shuō)會(huì)方便得多。”爸爸回答說(shuō)，一副真心不打算引發(fā)一場(chǎng)爭(zhēng)吵的樣子?！八齻兲沉?，我根本沒(méi)法學(xué)習(xí)！”如果我嘗試去學(xué)習(xí)的話(huà)，除了學(xué)到我需要學(xué)習(xí)的內(nèi)容，我還會(huì)聽(tīng)到妹妹們?cè)谡f(shuō)什么?！澳蔷徒兴齻儼察o！”爸爸低沉有力地說(shuō)，聲音在整座房子里回蕩著?！八齻儾宦?tīng)我的！”我沖他嚷道?！澳蔷妥屗齻兟?tīng)，由你來(lái)照看她們，就這么定了！”他不再說(shuō)話(huà)。他的臉漲得通紅，我覺(jué)得它都快要爆炸了。

他沒(méi)有再說(shuō)一個(gè)字就離開(kāi)了家，我感覺(jué)自己特別生他的氣。他不聽(tīng)我說(shuō)，也完全不幫我應(yīng)對(duì)我當(dāng)時(shí)所處的情況。如今，我知道我們本可以更好地處理當(dāng)時(shí)的狀況，我也很高興我們現(xiàn)在能夠避免像以前那樣吵得那么兇了。

第二天早上，我在從地下室傳來(lái)的嘈雜音樂(lè)聲醒來(lái)。我知道是爸爸在聽(tīng)披頭士的歌（還有誰(shuí)會(huì)在早上8點(diǎn)鐘聽(tīng)披頭士呢？），便起床向地下室走去。一看到爸爸在樓梯機(jī)上聽(tīng)《救命！》，我就開(kāi)始唱起這首歌來(lái)。他大吃一驚，因?yàn)樗⒖袒剡^(guò)頭來(lái)，看是誰(shuí)進(jìn)來(lái)了?？僧?dāng)他看到我，看到是我在唱歌時(shí)，他也跟著我唱了起來(lái)。我們唱著，雖然很難聽(tīng)，可卻依然一起唱著。我們不在乎我們是否會(huì)把其他人都吵醒，我們?cè)诤醯闹挥羞@個(gè)事實(shí)——我們明白自己都對(duì)對(duì)方感到抱歉，而我們也都原諒了對(duì)方。我們還是好朋友，這是我體驗(yàn)過(guò)的最美妙的感覺(jué)之一。當(dāng)你意識(shí)到你們?cè)诖蟪骋患苤笕匀豢梢跃S持一段友誼時(shí)，那絕對(duì)是一件特別棒的事情。

回首那一天，我意識(shí)到在一段關(guān)系中，一些很小的事情竟能鞏固彼此之間的感情，并能在發(fā)生了特別不愉快的事情之后幫助彼此維持這段關(guān)系。我和爸爸有吵得很兇、鬧得很不愉快的時(shí)候，但是因?yàn)橛信^士，我們往往能繼續(xù)我們的友誼。他們的音樂(lè)讓我們想起我們一起做過(guò)的所有愉快的事，以及我們的關(guān)系是多么的好。

直到今天，我們都知道我們可能會(huì)有爭(zhēng)吵，但我們同樣知道，我們?nèi)匀粫?huì)是好朋友。就像林戈·斯塔爾常說(shuō)的那句話(huà)：“我依靠朋友們的點(diǎn)滴幫助支撐了下來(lái)！”