愛(ài)你的媽媽要甚于愛(ài)你自己

張新民

Those Childhood Days

When you came into the world， she held you in her arms. You thanked her by weeping your eyes out.

When you were 1 year old， she fed you and bathed you. You thanked her by crying all night long.

When you were 2 years old， she taught you to walk. You thanked her by running away when she called.

When you were 3 years old， she made all your meals with love. You thanked her by dropping your plate on the floor.

When you were 4 years old， she gave you some crayons. You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.

When you were 5 years old， she dressed you for the holidays. You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud.

When you were 6 years old， she walked you to school. You thanked her by screaming， “Im not going！”

When you were 7 years old， she bought you a baseball. You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbors window.

When you were 8 years old， she handed you an ice cream. You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9 years old， she paid for piano lessons. You thanked her by never practicing at pains.

When you were 10 years old， she drove you all day， from football field to gym to one birthday party after another. You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11 years old， she took you and your friends to the movies. You thanked her by asking her to sit in a different row.

When you were 12 years old， she warned you not to watch certain TV shows. You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

Those Teenage Years

When you were 13， she suggested a haircut that was becoming. You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14， she paid for a month away at summer camp. You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15， she came home from work， looking for a hug. You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16， she taught you how to drive her car. You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17， she was expecting an important call. You thanked her by not phoning her.

When you were 18， she cried at your high school graduation. You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

Growing Old and Gray

When you were 19， she paid your college tuition， drove you to campus， carried your bags. You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldnt be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20， she asked whether you were seeing anyone. You thanked her by saying， “Its none of your business.”

When you were 21， she suggested certain careers for your future. You thanked her by saying， “I dont want to be like you.”

When you were 22， she hugged you at your college graduation. You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23， she gave you furniture for your first room. You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24， she met your girlfriend and asked about your plans for the future. You thanked her by glaring and growling， “Mother， please stop.”

When you were 25， she helped to pay for your wedding， and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you. You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30， she called with some advice on the baby. You thanked her by telling her， “Things are different now.”

When you were 40， she called to remind you of a relatives birthday. You thanked her by saying you were “really busy right now.”

When you were 50， she fell ill and needed you to take care of her. You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then one day she quietly died. And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder.

Theres no substitute for Mother. Cherish every single moment. Though at times she may not be the best of friends， may not agree to your thoughts， she is still your mother！She will be there for you to listen to your woes， your brags， your frustrations， etc. Ask yourself. Have you put aside enough time for her to listen to her “blues” of working in the kitchen， her tiredness？ Be tactful， loving and still show her due respect to her though you may have a different view from hers. Once gone， only wonderful memories of the past and also regrets will be left.

Dont take for granted the things closest to your heart. Love your mother more than you love yourself. Life is meaningless without her.

童年時(shí)光

你來(lái)到人世，她抱你在懷。你報(bào)答她，哭得天昏地暗。

你1歲時(shí)，她為你哺乳，為你洗澡。你報(bào)答她，哭了個(gè)通宵。

你2歲時(shí)，她教你走路。你報(bào)答她，她一叫你就跑。

你3歲時(shí)，她滿懷愛(ài)心為你準(zhǔn)備三餐。你報(bào)答她，把盤子一拋摔在地上。

你4歲時(shí)，她給你幾支彩筆。你報(bào)答她，把餐桌涂成大花臉。

你5歲時(shí)，節(jié)日里她盛妝打扮你。你報(bào)答她，撲通一聲跳進(jìn)旁邊一堆泥巴里。

你6歲時(shí)，她步行送你去上學(xué)。你報(bào)答她，扯著嗓子叫：“我就是不去！”

你7歲時(shí)，她給你買來(lái)個(gè)棒球。你報(bào)答她，把鄰居家的玻璃砸得稀里嘩啦。

你8歲時(shí)，她遞給你一支冰淇淋。你報(bào)答她，膝蓋上滴的全是它。

你9歲時(shí)，她掏錢讓你學(xué)鋼琴。你報(bào)答她，從來(lái)不用心去練它。

你10歲時(shí)，她整天開(kāi)車為你忙，從足球場(chǎng)到健身房，到一個(gè)又一個(gè)的生日會(huì)場(chǎng)。你報(bào)答她，跳下車，頭也不回背朝她。

你11歲，她帶你和朋友去影院。你報(bào)答她，讓她坐到另一排。

你12歲，她警告你有些電視節(jié)目不要看。你報(bào)答她，等她離開(kāi)家偏要看。

少年歲月

你13歲，她建議你把發(fā)型剪得體。你報(bào)答她，說(shuō)她沒(méi)品味。

你14歲時(shí)，她掏錢送你進(jìn)夏令營(yíng)。你報(bào)答她，整月沒(méi)有一封信。

你15歲時(shí)，她下班回到家，期望有人擁抱她。你報(bào)答她，把房門反鎖不理她。

你16歲時(shí)，她手把手教你開(kāi)她的車。你報(bào)答她，逮著機(jī)會(huì)就玩車。

你17歲，她在等一個(gè)重要的電話。你報(bào)答她，不給她打電話。

18歲你高中畢業(yè)時(shí)，她喜極而泣把淚灑。你報(bào)答她，在外面聚會(huì)，通宵達(dá)旦不回家。

成人、漸老

你19歲，大學(xué)學(xué)費(fèi)她買單，扛著包開(kāi)車送你到學(xué)校。你報(bào)答她，在宿舍門外說(shuō)再見(jiàn)，為的是不在朋友面前現(xiàn)大眼。

你20歲，她問(wèn)你是否在約會(huì)。你報(bào)答她，對(duì)她說(shuō)，“這事你不管不行嗎？”

你21歲，她為你將來(lái)事業(yè)提建議。你報(bào)答她，對(duì)她說(shuō)，“我才不愿學(xué)你樣！”

你22歲，大學(xué)畢業(yè)典禮上，她伸手把你緊擁抱。你報(bào)答她，問(wèn)她能否掏錢讓你到歐洲逛一趟。

你23歲，她為你第一套公寓購(gòu)置家具。你報(bào)答她，告訴朋友家具的模樣丑。

你24歲，她遇到你的女朋友，問(wèn)你們將來(lái)何打算。你報(bào)答她，對(duì)她怒目加咆哮，“媽……，得了吧，求你啦！”

你25歲，她花錢幫你籌辦婚禮，哭訴深深愛(ài)著你。你報(bào)答她，安家離她千萬(wàn)里。

你30歲，她打來(lái)電話為寶寶撫養(yǎng)提忠告。你報(bào)答她，告訴她，“如今情況不同啦！”

你40歲，她打電話提醒你，親戚的生日匆忘記。你報(bào)答她，說(shuō)你“實(shí)在忙得不用提?！?/p>

你50歲，她病倒需要你照顧。你報(bào)答她，念叨父母成負(fù)擔(dān)。

后來(lái)有一天，她悄悄地去了。突然間，你該做未做的事，仿佛霹靂，在你耳邊炸響。

媽媽是不可替代的，珍惜與她在一起的每一時(shí)刻吧。雖然有時(shí)候，她可能不是你最好的朋友，可能不同意你的想法，但媽媽就是媽媽！她始終會(huì)陪伴在你身邊，聽(tīng)你的傷心事，聽(tīng)你吹大牛，聽(tīng)你把沮喪傾訴……。捫心自問(wèn)，你是否曾經(jīng)抽出過(guò)足夠的時(shí)間陪伴她，聽(tīng)她講圍著灶臺(tái)轉(zhuǎn)的“傷心事”，講她也會(huì)疲勞？就算你與她意見(jiàn)不一，也要委婉，充滿愛(ài)心，對(duì)她表現(xiàn)出應(yīng)有的尊敬。一旦她去了，剩下的就只有對(duì)過(guò)去歲月的美好回憶，還有就是終生的遺憾。

不要以為，與你心最近，你就理所應(yīng)得。愛(ài)你的媽媽要甚于愛(ài)你自己。沒(méi)有了她，生活將毫無(wú)意義。