一句簡(jiǎn)單的話

Three Little Words

s illy birthday cards were always the norm in my family. Sentimental cards with messages of love were viewed with1)disdain and a faint sense of embarrassment. Looking back now, I don’t ever remember the words “I love you” being spoken.

Then, just before I turned 29, Dad retired and my parents moved from Victoria to Queensland. As I’m an only child, my friends were shocked that my parents could move so far away from me. I just shrugged, not feeling at all2)fazed by the situation—instead seeing it as an opportunity to have somewhere warm to go on holidays.

But six months into their retirement, my mother phoned to say she had some bad news: Dad had cancer.“But don’t worry,” she told me. It was3)lymphoma and the doctors had assured her this was the most treatable kind. With 4)chemotherapy, he would be “5)right as rain” in a couple of months. However, when I arrived in Queensland for a visit two months later, I was shocked by my father’s appearance. He was frail, underweight and had lost all his hair from the chemo. Although he was only 65, he looked as though he had aged 20 years.

傻氣的生日卡在我們家很常見(jiàn)。而表達(dá)愛(ài)意的感性卡片則受到輕視，并對(duì)此感到有點(diǎn)難為情。此刻回想過(guò)去，我不記得我們?cè)f(shuō)過(guò)“我愛(ài)你”三個(gè)字。

在我還不到29歲時(shí)，我爸爸退休了，爸媽從澳大利亞的維多利亞市搬到了昆士蘭。我是他們唯一的孩子，他們竟然搬到離我如此遙遠(yuǎn)的地方生活，我的朋友們對(duì)此都感到驚訝。我只是聳聳肩，完全不感到擔(dān)憂——反而把這當(dāng)成是個(gè)可以到溫暖的地方度假的機(jī)會(huì)。

但在他們退休六個(gè)月后，我母親打電話來(lái)說(shuō)有個(gè)壞消息：爸爸得了癌癥?！暗灰獡?dān)心，”她說(shuō)。那是淋巴癌，醫(yī)生跟她說(shuō)那是最容易治愈的一種癌癥。經(jīng)過(guò)化療，他將會(huì)在幾個(gè)月后完全恢復(fù)健康。然而，兩個(gè)月后，我到昆士蘭看望他們時(shí)，父親的容貌變化讓我感到震驚。他很虛弱，很瘦，因化療而掉光了頭發(fā)。雖然他只有65歲，但他看起來(lái)比實(shí)際年齡老了20歲。

1) disdain [d?s'de?n] n. 輕視，鄙視，蔑視

2) fazed [fe?zd] adj. 擔(dān)憂的

3) lymphoma [l?m'f??m?] n. 淋巴瘤

It was a sad sight and I felt my emotions welling up inside. Before I knew what was happening, I fell upon my dad with hugs and kisses, and for the frst time in my life I said, “I love you, Dad!” He seemed a little taken aback, but awkwardly told me he loved me, too.

But the6)tidal wave of emotion didn’t stop there as I fell upon my mother in the same fashion, expressing my love for her, too. Then I gently pulled away, expecting some kind of7)reciprocation. But it never came. Instead, she appeared frozen in horror. Hurt and humiliated, I struggled to understand this rejection. What was wrong with me? What was wrong with her?

看到這讓人傷心的一幕，百般滋味涌上了心頭。我還沒(méi)了解清楚情況就撲到他身上擁抱他、親吻他，并第一次說(shuō)出：“我愛(ài)你，爸爸！”他似乎有點(diǎn)吃驚，但他還是略顯尷尬地說(shuō)他也愛(ài)我。

激動(dòng)的情緒并沒(méi)有收斂，我以同樣的方式撲向母親，同樣向她表達(dá)了愛(ài)意。然后，我慢慢地松開(kāi)懷抱，期待著她的回應(yīng)。但她沒(méi)有任何回應(yīng)。相反的，她好像籠罩在恐懼之中。我感到傷心、委屈，難以理解這般抗拒的反應(yīng)。我做錯(cuò)了什么？她怎么了？

4) chemotherapy [ki?m??'θer?p?] n. 化療，化學(xué)療法

5) right as rain 身體健康；千真萬(wàn)確

6) tidal ['ta?d(?)l] adj. 潮汐的，潮水般的

7) reciprocation [r?s?pr?'ke?t?(?)n] n. 互給，互換，回報(bào)

The holiday was over all too quickly. When I was back at work once again, I overheard a workmate on a personal phone call to her mother. At the end of it she said, “I love you, Mum.” As simple as that. Declarations of love were clearly effortless in her family. Why wasn’t it like that in mine? Tears welling up, I ran to the toilets, where I cried so hard I thought my heart would break. This wasn’t right! Something had to be done about this love situation8)once and for all.

My opportunity came the next Sunday during my weekly phone call to my mother. After we had dispensed with our usual9)pleasantries and updates, I took a deep breath and asked, “Do you love me, Mum?” After a short hesitation, she replied brusquely, “You know I love you. Don’t be silly.”

“Do I? I don’t remember ever hearing it from you.”

“Well, we never said things like that in my family.”

“Well, I want it to be said in ours. From now on I want to end our conversations with ‘I love you.’ And that goes for Dad, too.”

轉(zhuǎn)眼間，假期就結(jié)束了。我回去上班時(shí)，無(wú)意中聽(tīng)到一位同事給她母親打電話。她最后說(shuō)：“我愛(ài)你。媽媽?！本湍敲春?jiǎn)單隨意。在她家里，互訴愛(ài)意顯然是一件輕松的事兒。為什么我家不能這樣呢？我頓時(shí)熱淚盈眶，跑到衛(wèi)生間痛哭一場(chǎng)，感覺(jué)心都要碎了。這不正常！我要徹底改變這個(gè)關(guān)于愛(ài)的問(wèn)題。

我的機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)了，下周日，我和母親進(jìn)行每周一次的通話。我們一陣寒暄并彼此說(shuō)了近況后，我深呼吸，問(wèn)道：“你愛(ài)我嗎，媽媽?zhuān)俊币魂嚩虝旱倪t疑后，她粗聲說(shuō)道：“你知道我愛(ài)你的。別犯傻了?！?/p>

“我怎么會(huì)知道呢？我不記得你有對(duì)我說(shuō)過(guò)?！?/p>

“哎，在我家，我們從來(lái)沒(méi)有說(shuō)過(guò)這樣的話?！?/p>

“但我希望在我們家能聽(tīng)到這句話。從現(xiàn)在起，我希望我們聊天結(jié)束時(shí)能對(duì)彼此說(shuō)‘我愛(ài)你?！职忠惨粯印！?/p>

我母親勉強(qiáng)同意了，那是我第一次在我們通話最后說(shuō)“我愛(ài)你，媽媽?zhuān)彼貞?yīng)：“我也愛(ài)你?！痹诙虝r(shí)間內(nèi)，“我愛(ài)你”變得容易說(shuō)出口了，后來(lái)說(shuō)得很自然了，我們每次說(shuō)再見(jiàn)都要

8) once and for all 一勞永逸地，徹底地

9) pleasantry ['plez?ntr?] n. 客氣話，客套

My mother reluctantly agreed, and for the first time our telephone conversation ended with, “I love you, Mum,” and she replied, “I love you, too.” Within a short time, “I love you” became easy to say, until it was very natural and we couldn’t consider saying goodbye without it. Birthday and Christmas cards went from silly to sentimental, and when Mum bought Dad a Christmas card that year with the words “I love you!” spelt out in10)holly, I almost cried.

In the meantime, Dad had bravely completed his cancer treatments and, twelve months after being diagnosed, thankfully went into remission. A year later the lymphoma11)fared up again, but once more he12)valiantly fought it off.

Unfortunately, the stress and worry had13)taken its toll on my mother, and in May 2000 she was diagnosed with14)pancreatic cancer. I was told that only fve percent of patients survive.

我母親勉強(qiáng)同意了，那是我第一次在我們通話最后說(shuō)“我愛(ài)你，媽媽?zhuān)彼貞?yīng)：“我也愛(ài)你?！痹诙虝r(shí)間內(nèi)，“我愛(ài)你”變得容易說(shuō)出口了，后來(lái)說(shuō)得很自然了，我們每次說(shuō)再見(jiàn)都要說(shuō)這句話。生日卡和圣誕卡也不再乏味，變得充滿情感。當(dāng)我看到媽媽在給爸爸的圣誕卡上用冬青葉拼寫(xiě)出“我愛(ài)你！”時(shí)，我?guī)缀跻蕹鰜?lái)了。

同時(shí)，爸爸勇敢地完成了癌癥治療，確診一年后，讓人欣慰的是，病情得以緩解。又過(guò)了一年，淋巴癌復(fù)發(fā)，但他再次勇敢地戰(zhàn)勝了它。

不幸的是，壓力和擔(dān)憂擊垮了母親，2000年5月，她被診斷出患有胰腺癌。我得知只有百分之五的病人可以治愈。

10) holly ['h?l?] n. 冬青樹(shù)

11) fare up 突然出現(xiàn)

12) valiantly ['v?lj?ntl?] adv. 英勇地，驍勇地

13) take one’s toll on sb. 對(duì)…產(chǎn)生不良影響

14) pancreatic [,p??kr?'?t?k] adj. 胰腺的

15) excruciatingly [?k'skru???e?t??l?] adv. 極痛苦地，折磨人地

Just five months after being diagnosed, Mum was admitted to hospital. It was a few days before I was due to fy out for another visit. Her condition was serious but not critical, and I phoned every morning to check on her. One morning when I rang, she sounded in good spirits, but that evening my instincts told me I needed to ring again.

My worst fear was confrmed when a nurse answered the phone and regretfully informed me that my mother’s condition had rapidly deteriorated. She wasn’t expected to make it through the night.

Knowing I couldn’t get a fight in time, I asked the nurse to put the phone next to my mother’s ear so I could talk to her.“She’s barely conscious,” the nurse replied. “It’s unlikely she’ll hear you.” But I didn’t care. I wanted to do it anyway.

Once she’d placed the phone by my mother’s ear, I started sobbing and telling Mum over and over again that I loved her, hoping she could hear. At frst, all I could hear from the other end was “Hmmmm” —but then, like a miracle, with a deep sigh she said, “Love you . . . love you, darling.” It was the last thing she said before drifting into unconsciousness. She never spoke again. My mother died at four o’clock the next morning, with my father by her side.

Although I was devastated by her death, the startling part was how well I coped. Of course, losing a parent is15)excruciatingly painful and I shed many tears, but receiving those lovely last words made it much more bearable. I had closure in the best possible way.

Slowly, Dad has now adapted to living alone for the frst time in his life. And, Now there’s just the two of us, we’re closer than ever.

Then last year, Dad was diagnosed with cancer again. This time it’s skin cancer, and to date he has been through two courses of radiotherapy. I don’t know whether Dad will win this latest battle. At 79, he’s not as strong as he once was, but he’s still as determined as ever to go down fghting. But there is one thing I do know: whatever happens, whatever the future holds—for Dad and for me—our last words to each other will be “I love you.” Of that I’m certain.

確診五個(gè)月后，媽媽被送往醫(yī)院。幾天后，我才能休假去看望她。她的情況很?chē)?yán)重，但仍有希望治愈，我每天早上打電話去了解她的情況。一天早上，我在電話中聽(tīng)出她精神不錯(cuò)，但那天晚上，我的直覺(jué)告訴我要再給她打個(gè)電話。

我最擔(dān)心的事情發(fā)生了，在電話中，護(hù)士遺憾地告知我，母親的病情急劇惡化。她可能熬不過(guò)那個(gè)晚上。

我知道自己趕不及坐飛機(jī)到那邊，于是讓護(hù)士把手機(jī)放到母親耳邊，讓我跟她說(shuō)說(shuō)話?！八龓缀鯖](méi)有了意識(shí)，”護(hù)士回答道。“她不太可能聽(tīng)到你說(shuō)話?！钡也辉诤酰揖褪窍敫f(shuō)話。

她把電話放在母親耳邊后，我就開(kāi)始邊抽泣邊不停地對(duì)她說(shuō)我愛(ài)她，希望她能聽(tīng)見(jiàn)。最初，我只能聽(tīng)到電話那頭“嗯嗯”的聲音，但后來(lái)，就像奇跡一般，她深深嘆了一口氣說(shuō)：“愛(ài)你……愛(ài)你，親愛(ài)的?！边@是她陷入昏迷前說(shuō)的最后一句話。她再也沒(méi)有說(shuō)過(guò)話了。我母親在第二天清晨四點(diǎn)去世了，我父親陪在她身邊。

我對(duì)她的去世感到萬(wàn)分難過(guò)，但讓我吃驚的是我的處理方式十分恰當(dāng)。當(dāng)然，失去母親讓我極度痛苦，流了很多眼淚，但最后聽(tīng)到充滿愛(ài)意的話語(yǔ)讓我心里好受了一點(diǎn)。我以最好的方式作了道別。

漸漸地，爸爸現(xiàn)在適應(yīng)了有生以來(lái)的第一次獨(dú)自生活。現(xiàn)在我們家只有我們倆人了，我們變得更親密。

去年，爸爸再次被診斷出患癌。這次是皮膚癌，目前，他已做過(guò)兩次放射治療。我不知道爸爸能否在最新的這場(chǎng)戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)中勝出。他79歲了，不再像從前一樣強(qiáng)壯，但他仍然同樣堅(jiān)決地堅(jiān)持戰(zhàn)斗。但我確信的是：不管發(fā)生什么事，不管我們的將來(lái)如何，爸爸和我對(duì)對(duì)方說(shuō)的最后一句話一定是“我愛(ài)你”。我對(duì)此深信不疑。