by Laurie Lorsch
Oh, how wonderful a thing it is when you find your inner child. Remember what it was like to be a child, to run around without a care in the world? Embracing[擁抱] your inner child is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself! It is the fun-loving part of you that in the case of so many of us disappears beneath the mountains of lifes trials[考驗(yàn),磨難] and years of hard work.
There are several things we can do to find our inner child, and to stay connected. Remember the things you loved doing as a child? Strolling[閑逛] down the toy aisle[走廊] in a department store, a trip to the playground, building sand castles, whatever made you happy as a child is where you should start. If you didnt have a good childhood, dont keep going back to revisit what you didnt have. You need to go back to what you wish you had as a child and treat yourself now to the things you may have been denied[拒絕]. Eat your dinner in the living room, or drink out of the milk carton[紙盒牛奶], etc.
Lifes hardships and responsibilities[責(zé)任] have a tendency[傾向] to make us obsess[使困擾] over the smallest things. Well, stop obsessing over the small things. As a child you were carefree[無憂無慮的]! When you experienced intense[強(qiáng)烈的] feelings you felt them and then quickly moved on. Try not to judge[下判斷] how you feel, just accept that you feel that way, no explanation really, and then simply move on. Hey, dont be surprised if the world doesnt fall apart[土崩瓦解] if you let go of your worries. In fact, you may gain some clarity[清楚,明晰] and a fresh perspective[觀點(diǎn),看法].
If you have children, get out and play with them. Go trick-or-treating注, yes, you can dress up too; swing[蕩秋千] with them; get muddy and dirty, its okay. Run around like you did as a child, and stop obsessing over whats fattening and how many calories[卡路里(熱量單位)] it has. Have that double chocolate ice cream cone[冰淇淋筒] then burn it off with fun and laughter!
Everyday chores[家庭雜務(wù)] can be fun. When youre cooking, dont follow the recipe[食譜]. While youre cleaning, dance to some music. Say its snowing outside, make a snow angel, build an igloo[圓頂冰屋], or start up a snowball fight. Youre not too old.
Now of course its probably not a good idea to act like a kid at work, and you obviously cannot ignore[忽視] your responsibilities. Embracing your inner child means being fun, creative, and spontaneous[自然產(chǎn)生的]. Growing up shouldnt mean you grow out of[拋棄(早年的習(xí)慣)] loving happiness and freedom.
找到內(nèi)心的童真是一件多么美妙的事情啊。還記得小時(shí)候無憂無慮到處亂跑的日子嗎?擁抱內(nèi)心的童真,是你能為自己做得最好的其中一件事情!你內(nèi)在的童真就是你心中愛玩的那份渴望——在經(jīng)歷了生活的重重考驗(yàn)和多年的辛苦工作之后,我們很多人的這份渴望都已經(jīng)消失殆盡。
我們可以做幾件事情來找到我們心中的小孩,并與之保持聯(lián)系。你還記得童年時(shí)你喜歡做些什么事情嗎?當(dāng)你在百貨公司那擺著玩具的貨架通道走來走去,當(dāng)你去操場(chǎng),當(dāng)你在堆沙堡的時(shí)候……童年時(shí)所有讓你開心的事情,都是你尋找內(nèi)心童真的起點(diǎn)。如果你的童年不太幸福,那么就不要去回想你不曾擁有的東西了?;叵肽阃陼r(shí)希望擁有的東西,然后用你小時(shí)候無法享受的事情來款待自己一下,比如,在客廳吃晚飯,或者直接從紙盒里喝牛奶等等。
生活的艱辛和責(zé)任容易使我們執(zhí)著于雞毛蒜皮的小事。不要再執(zhí)著于這些瑣事了。童年時(shí)候的你是無憂無慮的!(小時(shí)候)當(dāng)你遇到對(duì)你產(chǎn)生強(qiáng)烈刺激的事情時(shí),你只是經(jīng)歷了那些感覺,然后很快就會(huì)繼續(xù)前進(jìn)?,F(xiàn)在,你要盡量不對(duì)自己的感覺作評(píng)判,而是接受你有此種感覺這一事實(shí),無須解釋,然后繼續(xù)走你的路。當(dāng)你放下自己的憂慮而天并沒有塌下來,那時(shí)你不要覺得驚訝哦。事實(shí)上,你可能因此會(huì)看得更清楚,獲得一種全新的視角。
如果你有小孩,不妨和他們一起出去玩。和他們一起玩“不給糖就搗蛋”,是的,你也可以化裝(扮成鬼怪);和他們一起蕩秋千、弄得全身臟兮兮,都不要緊。像小時(shí)候那樣撒腿奔跑吧,不再糾結(jié)于什么食物會(huì)讓你增重、它們有多少卡路里等等,只管把那份雙球巧克力雪糕筒吃下去,然后用快樂和笑聲把它的熱量燃燒掉吧!
日常的家務(wù)也可以很好玩。做飯時(shí)不按食譜,做清潔時(shí)放一些音樂翩翩起舞。要是外面在下雪,就出去堆一個(gè)雪天使,砌一個(gè)小冰屋,或者打一場(chǎng)雪仗。你還沒那么老呢。
當(dāng)然,在工作中還表現(xiàn)得像小孩一樣,肯定不是好主意,你當(dāng)然不能忽略自己的責(zé)任。但是,擁抱你內(nèi)心的童真,意味著做一個(gè)有趣、有創(chuàng)造力和無拘無束的人。長(zhǎng)大,并不意味著你要舍棄對(duì)快樂和自由的熱愛。